The newsletter
I write about the method — what it asks of a person, and why I think it works the way it does.
When I finish a piece, it goes out here. Sometimes that is an idea I have been turning over for months, and sometimes it is a paragraph I wrote on a Tuesday because I could not stop thinking about it.
I also write about what I keep seeing in the room — the shapes an argument takes, the moment a person stops listening and starts defending. In general terms only. Nobody reads their own story here.
If any of that sounds useful, put your address in and I will send it to you.
In the form you can choose as many of the five groups as fit, or none. What each one means is further down the page.
What you get, by who you are
Dating
Writing on what attraction does and does not tell you, and how to notice whether you enjoy being close to someone and have the skills to build something with them.
PLACEHOLDER: Free exercise for people who are dating
TODO(NOAM): a short exercise to hand new subscribers
Young marrieds
Writing on the first years of a marriage: how to talk so defensiveness stops being necessary, and how to fight in a way that does less damage and tells more truth.
PLACEHOLDER: Free exercise for young marrieds
TODO(NOAM): a short exercise to hand new subscribers
Parents of teens
Writing for parents of teenagers: why a teen pulling away is usually development rather than defiance, and how to move from control to influence.
PLACEHOLDER: Free exercise for parents of teens
TODO(NOAM): a short exercise to hand new subscribers
High-conflict marriage
Writing for a marriage that has become a battlefield: what keeps happening between the two of you, and what has to happen for safety and trust to be rebuilt.
PLACEHOLDER: Free exercise for a high-conflict marriage
TODO(NOAM): a short exercise to hand new subscribers
I work with people professionally
Writing on the method for people who work with couples and families, and word of the certification and when its next cohort opens.
PLACEHOLDER: Free exercise for people who work with couples and families
TODO(NOAM): a short exercise to hand new subscribers
If you do this work professionally, the training is on its own page.
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