What do you do when love feels threatened?

Most relationship problems are not caused by a lack of love. They are caused by what people do when love feels threatened.

Anxiety rises, an old wound gets touched, and we start trying to get steady through somebody else. Almost everybody does some version of this, and most people have never had a name for their version of it.

Twelve everyday moments below. Pick the answer closest to what you actually do, not the one you would like to be true. There are no wrong answers in here — every one of them is something a person reaches for when they are trying to feel okay again.